Movin' on up.....in elevation, that is

Sean and I have decided to leave the sea level elevation for the mountains! FINALLY! ha. Things just seem to be going that way. We've decided to put any adoption plans on hold until we get to Idaho. Who knows maybe being out there will be a benefit. I've thought that one of the draw backs of us living in the burgh is that we were sooo far from all the kids we are interested in. So maybe if they don't have to travel 2000 miles we'll be higher up on the list for consideration. We can hope. So our plan is to be out of here by the end of April. Sooner if we can swing it, it'll depend on selling the house and maybe a new job. As of now I'll be able to continue working for the company I currently work for, since I can do my work on line. But I'm not sure how the distance will really impact what I do. So, we'll see on that. But we are moving and I am excited and can't wait to get outta here. It's been time to go for a long time!

Changes

After the complete disappointment over the kids in Oregon, we may be changing direction. We've continued to put our profile out there but there is no guarantee that we will get any children in the next 6 months or even year. Our original plan was to get kids, Sean to finish school, then move out west. Plans change. We'll let you know when we finally make up our mind :) Although things may change again when they call us about some kids....but I'm not holding my breath.

Update....1 step forward. 3 steps back

Tuesday was supposed to be the day we found out if we were going to get the kids.....we didn't find out. Last week we had talked to the case worker, which I wrote about. We found out that the hearing to terminate parental rights had been pushed back until April because the bio-dad was going to trial on related charges. His lawyer managed to motion the court to push back the hearing, even though all the other stuff that has happened to these kids is enough to terminate rights on their own. Yeah, some people are real pieces of work. The case worker, last week, said that they were going to move forward with the committee meeting and with placement since the risk was really low for the bio-parents to get these kids back. So we did our interview, answered all their questions and waited. Then we get an email on Tuesday, about noon, (9am Oregon time) that they had cancelled the meeting. LAST MINUTE! The case worker has decided to wait, and move a little slower since the rights won't be terminated right away. great, thanks for getting our hopes up. I could have waited to bring the kids home, it would not have been a big deal. just GIVE ME A F$&%#&#G ANSWER!!!! So, we move on. We'll keep them on our radar, but if something else comes up before they get their act together, well, we tried. 

Frustration

We talked to the case worker in Oregon last week. She asked a bazillion questions. Most of them pretty hard. For example: What will you do when all 4 of the kids melt down at once, and what about their special needs, how will you address each individually, and why do you want THESE kids specifically? ugh! we thought we had answered pretty well. Sean said a prayer before we even started and answers from us seemed to flow. thennnnn.......I got an email on saturday. Actually I read it on Sunday cause I always forget to read my email on the weekend, but something (someOne) told me to check. So I did. grrr, what the hell?! Now they want to know how far in debt we are and what we are doing about it and do we have money in savings for emergencies. And what are we planning on doing to attach with these kids. And how exactly am I going to be able to work from home and take care of the youngest child. And you were in therapy at one type, can you tell me why and if it helped...... The "what the hell" is because people can have biological kids everyday and no one asks them these questions. If they did I guess there wouldn't be any kids for us to adopt, but STILL!!!!! What parent knows when they have a kid how things are going to go? not a single damn one of them. They have ideas, just like we do, but I can pretty much guaran-damn-tee half or more won't work, and then we'll be back to square one and need to reassess the situation and try something else. Either way, we find out tomorrow. We'll see what happens. On another note, the courts out there were supposed to terminate parental rights last week but the bio-dad's lawyer motioned the court to wait until after his trial for sexual abuse was completed. Not that the kids haven't had to deal with all kinds of other stuff and that's low on the totem pole as to why the kids were pulled from the home, but anyway. The court granted the motion, so now the rights won't be terminated until April. We don't really know how this will impact us because we don't know where the other family that we are "competing" with is from. If they are from Oregon, it might tip things in their favor. sigh. tomorrow is going to be a long day!

Decision date

The date has been set. We talk to the independent council (lawyer??) tomorrow and then the decision will be made on Tuesday December 17th. So we will know in less than a week if we are getting our kids. Here's hoping.

Update

The latest on the kids we hope are our kids is that their case worker really likes us. We were supposed to find out right before Thanksgiving if we get them or not, but now that decision has been pushed back 2 weeks. :( The good part is, they really like us on their end. The caseworkers, that is. We are waiting from a call from the independent party that represents the family. I guess they want someone who will objective when they convene for their committee meeting to decide if the kids can be placed with us. Supposedly the call was to be done before the end of the month, but I'm not holding out much hope for that, since the end of the month is next Friday and Thanksgiving is in the middle of that. So, we wait. Our caseworker is trying to get a more definite time frame for when they will be contacting us, but she hasn't heard yet. The caseworker for the kids is hoping that a decision will be made mid-December. I'll believe it when I see/hear it. Once we get approval from their "committee" and then from each state, we will be able to contact the foster parents and the kids. Won't be able to bring them home until the end of January, but we will be able to contact them. I've stopped looking for new kids, I hope I'm not jinxing myself.